How To Get Your Life Back on Track

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I want to share with you how I got unstuck. This might not be directly related to cooking in the kitchen, but it is definitely related to beginning within. Really, this type of ‘self help’ should start before any special diets or medical treatments are undertaken.


These techniques will work to improve any aspect of your life… losing weight, relationship struggles, general feelings of low energy or dissatisfaction, specific problems in the workplace or even with ‘the world’ at large.


In the future I’ll share more personal stories; about how I went from falling apart and miserable to happy and healthy, and to having a better relationship with my husband than I thought possible. (After we'd already been together 19 years!)


First I wanted to get this overview out to you, along with a few of the top books that have helped me on my journey back to total health.


With love and besos,






In a sentence: Your beliefs create your reality. You are what you think.


You’ve probably heard that somewhere before... but have you ever really considered the implications?


If you aren’t happy with something, that’s a sign that you are out of alignment. Your natural state is happiness, joy, appreciation, and love. (You might not remember that right now, but it’s true.)


That doesn’t mean you can snap your fingers and go straight from depressed and sluggish to joyful and full of energy. However, you CAN get there.


The first step is to become of aware of your beliefs.


You can't will yourself to be happy if you believe you have no right to happiness or that you are unworthy of it. Those are two conflicting beliefs. It just doesn’t work.


If you think you must be perfect, and yet hold a belief that your body or some aspect of yourself can never be perfect, then you will be in conflict with yourself until you change one (or both) of those beliefs.


And since I mentioned worthiness; your worth is not a question. Your value and worth are a given. You don’t have to earn them. You just have to remember your worth and allow good things to come to you.



How do I find my beliefs?


First off, you must begin to experience your emotions fully. Your emotions are your most-important feedback system. They flow from your beliefs and will lead you to the true source of your struggles, conflicts and problems.


Affirmations will be of limited use until you get to the root cause (your beliefs).


This doesn’t mean going emotionally crazy and rampaging at other people. This is for YOU. If you are rampaging, that’s a sign that you’ve been blocking feelings and they have built up for too long. It’s your pressure release valve. Feelings have to go somewhere.


Emotions are motion.


If you are feeling emotionally numb, that’s another sign of blockage. You can’t block one feeling without affecting the whole system.


The idea is to never block emotions, but to let them flow like a river. (No, you won’t get swept away.) At first it might seem like there’s a lot to face. Yet if you listen to yourself, you will learn to use your feelings as signs to keep you on track. To help you take care of, appreciate, and honor your unique self.


Then, as you begin to experience and release emotions (letting them flow) take time to recognize that the feelings are not ‘true’.



What does this mean?


You can let sadness wash through you and over you and feel so deeply low... and at the same time know that that is not You. You can feel inferior, and also know that it doesn’t mean that you ‘are’ in inferior.


Your beliefs form everything, including the experience of your body. Thoughts are what cause crises. Change your thoughts and the crisis will no longer exist.


A great visual is to imagine driving down the road in your car with a big smiley face sticker covering the gas gauge. You wouldn’t do that though, because you wouldn’t get important feedback you needed... like when you were about to run out of fuel.


And yet, you might do the equivalent to yourself, pasting a smile on your face and masking the ‘you' of the moment.


Now, as your feelings begin to flow, and you are observing those emotions without making them into a ‘Truth’, ask yourself why you are feeling this way. You can ask outright, or subtly suggest to your mind that you’re open to discovering the source.



Many (most) of our problems in life are caused by unexamined beliefs and distorted memories.


You already have all of the answers- if you are just willing to listen and to trust yourself. You don’t need anyone to save you. There is nothing inside of you to be afraid of.


You have everything you need, whether you know it consciously or not.


Try asking yourself open-ended questions. Use a pen and paper if it helps. Try something like, ‘This feeling of ________ is coming from the belief I hold that…’ and then write down your uncensored answers without overthinking it.


Your conscious mind connects your inner self and outer reality. Ask yourself why you are feeling this way, and let yourself respond with the beliefs that are behind it.


Any fully expressed emotion will then turn into another. For instance anger might give way to blame. That’s actually a positive step. If you keep at it you can move yourself slowly up the ‘ladder’ into positive feeling emotions, uncovering beliefs that are creating your reality as you go.



Emotional Set Point Ladder (from ‘Ask and it is Given’, see below)


  1. Joy/Knowledge/Empowerment/Freedom/Love/Appreciation
  2. Passion
  3. Enthusiasm/Eagerness/Happiness
  4. Positive Expectation/Belief
  5. Optimism
  6. Hopefulness
  7. Contentment
  8. Boredom
  9. Pessimism
  10. Frustration/Irritation/Impatience
  11. 'Overwhelment'
  12. Disappointment
  13. Doubt
  14. Worry
  15. Blame
  16. Discouragement
  17. Anger
  18. Revenge
  19. Hatred/Rage
  20. Jealousy
  21. Insecurity/Guilt/Unworthiness
  22. Fear/Grief/Depression/Despair/Powerlessness



Just start with the first emotion and belief that comes up- where you are right now.


Maybe eventually you’ll even come to the ‘invisible beliefs’. These are the ones you don’t even question; to you they ‘are’ reality and you have no control over them. For instance, a belief like, 'the world is easier for men'.


Over time, as you talk to yourself and analyze the contents or your mind, you will become aware of the constant flow of thoughts. You don’t need to fight the ‘negative’ ones and override them with the ‘positive’, putting that fake smiley face on again. Let the thoughts flow by, like a river. You won’t be swept away. Collect and nurture the ones that serve you and cause you to feel happy emotions.


Using this very simple (though not always easy) technique of discovering and changing your beliefs, you can change your relationships, and your whole ‘world’. No one else has to participate. Try it, and you’ll see how everyone starts to respond to you differently.


In order to change your reality, your life, you must change your beliefs.


  1. Beliefs & Thoughts
  2. Emotions- Clues & feedback
  3. Creation



Remember to…


-Feel the emotion


-Know it isn’t ‘true’ (ask yourself, 'Can I absolutely KNOW it is true?')


-Look for the belief behind the emotion, the source


-Recognize the belief you hold and decide if it’s something you want to hang on to, or release, or change into something that will better serve you


Of course if it’s a positive belief, and it’s getting you what you want, then by all means keep it! Not all beliefs are negative, and taking the time to also recognize the wonderful things you have created will serve as positive reinforcement.


As with everything, from physical health to mental health to relationships, first you must begin within.




References (information included above is from these three sources)

and Recommended Reading:


Ask and It Is Given: Learning to Manifest Your Desires

by Esther and Jerry Hicks (an Abraham Book)


The Nature of Personal Reality: Specific, Practical Techniques for Solving Everyday Problems and Enriching the Life You Know

by Jane Roberts (a Seth Book)


Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life

by Byron Katie




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